So, you’re finally married! You’re happy and excited for this new stage in your life, but at the same time, you might feel a little empty. You could have what’s called “post-wedding blues;” that sinking feeling that comes when you realize all your hard work has paid off, and the party’s over, and you’re wondering what’s next. After all, you’ve spent months, maybe even years, planning for the big day, and if you’re like most girls, you’ve been looking forward to it your whole life. In 24 hours, it’s all over! What now?!
First of all, you should know that it’s completely normal to still feel drawn to bridal magazines, at least in my opinion. And you might go a little overboard buying wedding themed scrapbook elements. Totally normal.
But aside from eyeing bridal magazines and scrapbooking, there are other things you can do to get through the post-wedding blues. Here’s just a few suggestions:
1. Don’t neglect your friends. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you can’t still hang out and do most of the stuff you used to do! However, if you used to spend hours at the mall and now you’re on a budget, you might need to have a conversation with your husband first, and you might need to find some new activities you and your friends can enjoy.
2. Meet new people. Meet other young marrieds! Having a close group of friends going through a similar stage in life is so important, for support, encouragement, and challenging each other along the way.
3. Learn a new skill, or brush up on an old one. Spend some time doing something you used to love doing, but haven’t made time for recently. Teach your spouse how to do it too, or let them teach you a new skill! Consider taking a class together, like karate, pottery, learning a new language, photography, or ballroom dancing.
4. Plan a trip. Few things boost my mood more than a road trip. Even if it’s several months in advance, spend time planning for your trip and start looking forward to it!
5. Make your house a home. Remember that bridal magazine
addiction attraction? Try channeling some of that fascination into home decor magazines. Find the style that appeals most to you, and get busy. The internet is full of fabulous DIY and decor bloggers to follow for inspiration!
6. Set some goals. Goals for yourself, or as a couple, such as getting in shape, paying off debt, fixing up a house, or like we already mentioned, learning a new skill. Give yourself something to keep working toward.
7. Consider getting a pet. There’s nothing like a puppy to chase away the blues! Consider it training and preparation for children. Count the cost before you do, and check the newspaper or your local pet shelter for potential additions to your family.
Adjusting to life after the wedding is a big deal, and if the wedding has been your focus for some time, it might take awhile to get on with life. The main point of the suggestions I’ve made is to keep moving forward. Instead of looking at the post-honeymoon pre-baby phase as a lull, see it as an adventure, and make the most of it!
Note: If your blues aren’t going away, it could be something more. Talk to your Dr. about your birth control side effects if you’re on the pill. Since some birth control pills may cause depression, it may be in your best interest to switch to a new medication or method.